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| Death and Famdamnily |
| 04.03.04 (3:25 pm) [edit] |
Hey. I am in Columbus (well, right now I am at my aunt's house in the country 'bout 45 minutes outta the city of columbus, but whatev--we run all over this town and county, for our family is many. And we love). My grandfather died last night at 7 p.m. it had been a long time coming and it was his time, FOR SURE. he was still saying funny things right up untili the end...For instance, a nurse came in to check on him and said, "hey, pat, you're looking better today!" and Papa said, "Well, I changed the shade of my lipstick". He is so fucking hardcore. Amazing. My greatest teacher.
Everyone is arranging the funeral services, calling family and friends to let them know, etc., etc. Its really crazy. He was a huge part of all our lives. Some families have Matriarchs (like my dad's side of the fam). Some have Patriarchs. He was definitely the King of our clan. And grandma was the queen; she devoted most of her life to keeping him alive. There have been some very intense moments. At his bedside, after he was Gone, my gramma was holding his hand and crying and said, "He's my Love". it was the weeping of an old woman who just lost her One and Only True Love--hard to come by....
At my aunt's house, my uncle is dying of Lou Gherig's Disease. He's been diagnosed for almost 6 months now. Every day it gets worse. He was just losing his speech in July. Now he cannot talk at all, cannot move, walk, anything. He is alert, he watches things, but mostly he is just angry and motionless. He treats my aunt worse than he did when he was well. She has never faught anything so hard in her life, it seems. She just keeps going, feeding him, bathing him, helping him use the bathroom from his spot on the chair. It is so hard. She's got 3 daughters, my cousins, and 2 sisters (my mom and other aunt). We are helping as much as we can...She is so strong. As is Gramma.
Luckily, my big dyke cousin took me out to the hugeass gay bar she used to work at. I got fucking drunk and happy. And we bonded. There are 2 in our family.....
2 of my cousins have babies. The older one has 2 babies-1 1/2 yrs and 3 months. The younger mother has her first born-barely a month old. Amazing. Amazing how thigns happen. My Papa dies and here come new babes, redfaced and big-lunged, wrinkly little bundles of Nuthin' but Love, diapers and breast milk. For the most part....
I have to break right now. I am really tired and cant think of anything inspired right at the momentito.
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